Personal Community Building

WORK IN PROGRESS! So don’t judge too heavily.


I believe that a strong community with a sense of belonging and a sense of being seen/known is the key to a good life and happiness. I believe that with the erosion of various social structures (like religion), there are less pre-formed communities for people to plug into/join. I believe that this is unfortunate, but it gives us the opportunity to take it into our own hands and gather people that we love the most into a community of our own. I call this personal community building and it is a little bit different than traditional community.

Part I: Friendship

I believe that personal community building happens through friendship. You cultivate friendship with individuals but this can be done in a one-on-one or group setting.

How to Cultivate Friendship

Why Center Friendship?

How to Center Friendship

Part II: Community

How to Create Community

Supplementary Readings

  1. Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends by Marisa G. Franco
  2. The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center by Rhaina Cohen
  3. Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community by Robert D. Putnam